Jun 13Member-onlySurfing the (Repeating and Relentless) Waves of GriefGrief comes in waves. You might be familiar with the popular concept of the five stages of grief. They are… Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance And what do we do with anything expressed as “stages?” In our modern, western culture, we treat stages as purely linear. We turn the stages…6 min read6 min read
May 22Member-onlyWalking Humbly While Waiting for Your MomentOn the one hand, you can’t do anything you put your mind to. Some things aren’t possible just because you believe they are. That’s why superhero movies are so popular — we get to watch fictitious characters do all the impossible things we wish we could do. On the other…Faith3 min readFaith3 min read
May 9Member-onlyThe Way of Violence Versus the Way of JesusThere is the way of violence, and there is the way of Jesus, and they are never the same path. Seems simple enough, right? And yet, we’ve been living in a culture in which many who claim to follow Jesus are willing to resort to violence to defend their specific…Jesus4 min readJesus4 min read
Oct 5, 2022Member-onlyHow Your Faith Can Make You WholeWhen Jesus says, “Your faith has made you whole,” what does he mean? Among most Christians today, there are two competing interpretations. On the one hand are those who emphasize the power of one’s faith. The more faith you have, the more likely you are to receive a miracle. …6 min read6 min read
Jul 6, 2022Member-only10 Books for Christians in Deconstruction and DoubtWhen I was seventeen, I started growing in my Christian faith. I went back to church with my girlfriend (now wife) and I was welcomed by her very loving family and her very loving church. I visited a Christian bookstore at the mall for the first time in my life…Faith15 min readFaith15 min read
May 3, 2022Member-only5 Arenas of Leadership for PastorsFor about a decade and a half of my life as a pastor, I spent a lot of time focusing on being a better church leader. …Leadership6 min readLeadership6 min read
Apr 5, 2022Member-onlyYou Can’t Multi-Task, but Can You Multi-Career?There are two schools of thought when it comes to the idea of whether you should focus your life on one single purpose and pathway, or get involved in all of the various things that interest you. We’ve all heard the stories of the people who did amazing things by…Careers4 min readCareers4 min read
Mar 29, 2022Member-onlyHow to Avoid Hitting People When You Feel AngryShould you slap people when they make you mad? No. Granted, it happens sometimes. Sometimes it even happens on a stage on live television with millions of people watching. But it’s definitely not an appropriate or acceptable (or legal) way to handle your emotions. …Anger4 min readAnger4 min read
Feb 3, 2022Member-onlyGoing the Wrong Way On the Way to the Right WayNobody is better at speaking truth in love than my wife, Angie. She’s a skilled therapist, but goes easy on me as I try to swim to the depths with her when it comes to the heart. The other day, she gave me a children’s book called What the Road…Decisions3 min readDecisions3 min read
Jan 14, 2022Member-onlyHow to Cultivate Authenticity In Your Leadership CultureBe real with people, or be prepared to lose them. It’s hard. As Pastor Rick Warren wrote once, we all fight against three particular fears: the fear that we will be exposed for who we truly are the fear that we will be rejected the fear that we will be…Leadership3 min readLeadership3 min read